Has your man felt stalemated, unmotivated, or rudderless in his career? Have you seen him act depressed or anxious about his current job? Ramona and Dale, who have been there, answer a wife who is very worried about her husband because he’s so unhappy at work, and because the strain is affecting their marriage.
Throw Me a WifeSaver: “My husband has been at a point for a while where he is unsatisfied with his job, but he doesn’t have any clue what to do. Lately, it seems like he’s become another person. He goes to work, comes home, and his time is mostly spent on his computer or his phone. I’m drowning myself in worry, fears, and insecurities. I feel like he’s slipping further and further away. I’m afraid I’m not doing good enough as his wife, and it’s making it hard for me to keep control of my emotions. Help!”
Listen and learn what’s really going on inside for both of them and what a wife can do to help her husband out of the doldrums and moving towards positive solutions.
Key Topics:
- Where his anxiety and depression may be coming from
- Why he is withdrawing from her
- How the male brain deals with stress and emotion
- Why his behavior triggers worry and fear in her
- The potential impact of her understanding and involvement
- Four ways to get him energized and moving towards solutions and dreams
This episode is really what I needed to hear and try to implement. My boyfriend is a worker… he’ll probably never retire! But because of his financial situation, he is working two jobs plus side yard jobs and is not happy, especially with his 2nd job. He’s good in his field but the pay is not very much.
He’s one of those who just works and goes home and watches TV and doesn’t get enough sleep (no surprise there!). I’ve asked him several times what would make him happy, but he had no answer. He rarely has answers to any questions about decisions he could make in his life, which is very frustrating to me. He tried taking classes once to complete his BA for a possible promotion, but of course, he had no time to do the work, and he said the pay increase wasn’t really worth it.
I try and hold back listing all the options out there and haven’t suggested to him to just give it a try: to quit the one job, let’s get married, and I’ll have his back if it doesn’t work out. I know he longs to be financially secure, and although he’d hope I would be his support in that, I also feel he’d be against me taking that role from him. He’s adamant about pulling his own weight financially in marriage.
You mentioned to me, Ramona, that it’s all about tone and how we say things. And that’s what I’m trying to learn. I’ve just started WifeSavers and can’t wait to really learn those skills to help him find his quest, and hopefully get married soon.